1 Thing I Would Go Back and Tell my 13-Year-Old Self

Don’t hate your body! Easier said than done! I recently came across a photo album from when I was so young I couldn’t even order a drink in a bar, or cast my first ballot…we’re talking young. Looking at the photos with my 30-year-old eyes, I saw myself much differently than how I saw myself then. I was so skinny, and cute, and…insecure. As a teenager, I didn’t despise what my Mama gave me, but if a genie came along and granted me 3 wishes, one of them probably would’ve been to look like Niki Taylor. Shallow, I know.

I’d say I had the “normal” amount of body image issues growing up– no eating disorders, but I wasn’t completely comfortable in my own skin either. But who is at that age? Not many teens, especially girls. Which brings me to my next question. How am I going to make sure my daughter doesn’t end up with a warped body image? Take all the mirrors out of the house? Disconnect our cable & internet and never buy a fashion magazine again? That’s a start.

I know I have to put more emphasis on intelligence and what’s on the inside…yada yada yada, but I wish there was some magic button I could press that would relieve her of ever having to worry about her weight or what size she is. It’s really appalling how early all of this madness starts these days. Maybe I’ll teach her what a wise woman once told me a long time ago (not really, it was yesterday). She said, “Love the jeans you’re in now,” meaning be proud of what you’ve got no matter what size you are, because you might look back and realize you were hot stuff when you thought you were a schlub. She went on to say that it never really goes away either…fan-frickin-tastic! Although I’m not in the jeans I want to be in post-baby, I need to embrace them because in ten years I might look back and say, “Mummy wasn’t so bad after all!”

6 thoughts on “1 Thing I Would Go Back and Tell my 13-Year-Old Self

  1. I remember when that exact issue with Niki Taylor on the cover was mailed to my house. It wasn’t too long until she had that awful car accident… and didn’t even look like that anymore. Funny thing is, as tiny as she is on that cover, she almost looks huge compared to the heavily Photoshopped/airbrushed Skeletors on covers these days.


  2. So true! I agonize over the same dilemma (among many many others). Being a mom to a girl brings to mind all those old emotional traps that I want to help her to avoid…but I guess we can only do so much and hope that the love we fill them up with will carry them above the BS. Great post, thx!


    • I wanted to have a daughter so badly even though I knew all these issues would come into play at some point. I love how you put it…filling them up with love to overcome the BS! Perfectly stated!! : )


    • What a great motto! Might have to steal that one from you and give up my delusion of ever having a supermodel’s body! : ) You don’t get one from not going to the gym and eating dessert every night. And I’m not about to give up my sweets! : ) Thanks for reading!


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